Why Googling “Is My Partner A Narcissist” is Dangerous

I can’t tell you how many times I googled narcissism when I was with my ex. I poured over every website I could find and checked off the things on the list that my partner did or didn’t do. I would be ready to accept the truth and then see something like “a narcissist will never apologize.” I would then convince myself that since they apologized once in a blue moon, they couldn’t be a narcissist.

They could be, and they are. It took me leaving to finally accept what I was dealing with. The thing is, a narcissist can and will apologize when it works in their favor. They can and will go to therapy with you. They will make you believe they want to get better for you and for the family, when really they are just using it as a tactic to get you to stay. What’s worse, they may very well be filing away all the vulnerable things you share in therapy and using those same things to abuse you.

This is my advice to you: if you are googling this, trust your gut. Obviously we can’t diagnose anyone, but we can accept that fact that whether they’re diagnosed or not, they’re abusing you. They could be abusing your kids, too (as was my case). As soon as you can, make a plan to get away from your narcissist. Do it now.