Love Bombing

When my last relationship started, I thought it was two people quickly falling in love. I thought it was fate. Something we were both powerless to stop from happening. 

I had never felt more special than I did in the beginning of that relationship. I was placed on a pedestal. All my needs were met, my son’s needs were met, and we had lots of sex, laughs, and connection. 

It came to a screeching halt within 2-3 months. All the sudden, they were withdrawn. There was no more sex. They were moody and constantly testing me to see what I would tolerate. Unfortunately, I ignored all the red flags. 

Looking back, I can clearly see the start of our relationship for what it was: I was being love bombed by a narcissist. 

This is what love bombing can look like:

-“I’ve never felt this way before.” 

-“I was powerless to stop this from happening.”

-“you’re different from all my exes.”

-“I was drawn to you immediately.” 

-“I’ve waited my whole life for someone like you.”

-wanting to be together 24/7

-moving fast sexually

-wanting to move in together right away

-promising an amazing future (buying a house together, a wedding, etc) very early on

This is just my experience. It can look different depending on the person and the situation. Remember that while it feels good in the beginning, what comes next will not.