Divorce Do Over
I promised I would be back with a deep dive into what I would do differently if I could go back.
Here we go…
I would have told him in person. I mentioned in a previous post (How Did You Tell Your Husband?) that I told him over the phone. He was in Japan at the time. I felt so sure of what I felt and what I needed to do. I was bursting at the seams to be seen as a queer person I didn’t think I could wait another day.
I would have agreed to do ongoing therapy with him. We did one session together which helped him understand my sexuality. That was vital for his acceptance of the situation, however, it was not enough. We’ve done so well learning how to co-parent but with the right therapist it could have been a much smoother process.
I would not have rushed into another relationship. I would have given myself space and time to heal from that relationship so as not to carry those wounds into a new one.
I would have had more in person conversations with him and been more open to listening to his feelings.
